The moral of this writeup on looking for love is to not settle for second best – or whoever happens to walk through the door. You deserve the best – so hold out for someone worthy of your love, who is also on the same page relationship-wise.
If you are looking for love or a long-term relationship, these are the daters to avoid at all costs!
1. The ‘Let’s Play it By Ear’ Dater
This type of person is one of the most frustrating. They absolutely won’t commit to any sort of date in the near future – let alone be a good, reliable partner for the long-term. If you meet someone who likes to say, “I’ll let you know…maybe…or I will get back to you,” do yourself a favor and lose their number. They are either not that into you, opportunists or just have a tough time making decisions due to serious insecurities. You will be saving yourself many moments of aggravation!
2. The ‘Hot and Cold’ Dater
One minute they are all over you, the next they seem irritated at you – and you have no clue why. You then spend the next day obsessing over what you may have done wrong. And so the cycle continues. Clearly, this person has some issues, but do you really want to stick around and figure out what they are? When looking for love and a long-term relationship, it is important to be with someone who is consistent and stable. Life will throw you enough curve balls as it is.
3. The ‘All About Me’ Dater
This dater has a lot to say – about themselves! You may not mind in the beginning, but will soon realize, “Hey, we just spent another date talking about him/her. Wow, this person has a lot going on. Always.” You always end up seeing movies they want to see or eating at restaurants they choose, and soon begin to lose yourself in their midst. This type may eventually commit – but do you really want to be with such a self-absorbed individual?
4. The ‘Let’s Hang Out’ Dater
And by hanging out, we mean with all of their friends in tow. All the time. This dater might at first seem alluring, super-sociable, fun and the life of the party. It gets tough when you actually want to start developing something with them – because their friends are always around. Like a crutch, this dater uses his/her pals to keep you at an emotional distance. It is likely that nothing serious will come out of this situation – so time to leave the party!
5. The ‘Glass is Half Empty’ Dater
Some people just have a negative outlook on their work, family, and the world we live in. You may find the brooding, negative type sort of intriguing – but eventually, all they really do is steal all of your positive energy. It’s up to you ultimately, but we’d say stay away from this type of dater if you want a happy, peaceful, drama-free relationship.
6. The ‘Party Animal’ Dater
If you are young and just having fun, dating a party king/queen can be exciting! If you are looking for a more serious relationship, the party animal is not usually the direction you will want to go in. If you are dating someone who is 40 and still partying like they are 20 – there’s an extremely good chance that this person has a lot of growing up to do, and it isn’t your job to teach them.
7. The ‘Serial’ Dater
If you are really ready for something more serious, don’t waste your time with a “meantime” guy or gal (a.k.a someone not ready for commitment). Many of us get lonely and figure, “Hey, hanging with this person is better than being alone.” Not true. It is better to wait for the right person rather than wasting time with the wrong one – who may distract you from when the right one actually shows up in your life. Many of us get invested in these non-commital types – who are like the ultimate challenge – and just end up getting hurt.
8. The ‘Spoiled Rotten’ Dater
One of the biggest issues with dating someone who is “Daddy’s Princess” or a “Mama’s Boy” is that they often expect you to spoil them the exact same way. Some of them aren’t used to being told no, haven’t had to deal with alot of responsibilities, and their parents will likely play a big part in any of their relationships. That’s not to say that all bejeweled offspring behave this way – just be aware as you start investing in this type of dater.