Sex is NOT the most intimate thing in a relationship!
A lot of times, people will limit their perceptions of physical intimacy with other people to that of what takes place in the bedroom. These people have to understand that physical intimacy shouldn’t be limited to some playful action underneath the sheets.
Intimacy can manifest itself in various shapes and forms that don’t necessarily have to be love making. Every experienced couple in a relationship knows that intimacy is a vital part of shaping and forming a healthy romantic union.
A relationship that is devoid of intimacy is practically a very dull friendship. There is no denying that love making explorations are a whole lot of fun, but they don’t have a monopoly on what it means to be intimate with another person.
If you are still lost and don’t know how to go about being intimate with your partner aside from making love with each other, read on until the end of this article.
You have to understand that love making can only be as exciting and as invigorating as it is for a certain period of time. If you want to preserve the excitement of love making, then you have to be willing to mix things up and express your intimacy with your partner in other ways as well.
The diversity in your manifestations of intimacy will only add more fuel to the fire of your passionate love affair. Here are a few examples on how you and your partner can build intimacy without making love.
1. Look deeply into each other’s eyes.
The eyes are the window to the soul. This cliché still holds true today. There is something exhilarating about staring deeply into the eyes of a person you love very much. It’s as if you are being granted access to the deepest and darkest parts of a person’s core.
The level of intimacy between two people staring deeply at each other’s eyes is immeasurable. It’s a different kind of intimacy compared to that of a physical touch, but that doesn’t mean that it is any less potent.
2. Sleep together in bed and just lie there with each other without love making.
You don’t have to make love for you guys to be intimate. The act of sleeping together in the same bed can serve as a greater metaphor of comfort and security with each other. You wake up in the mornings and live your individual lives as you face the world on your own; but after all is said is done, the both of you come home to each other to sleep on the same bed. There are few things in the world that are more intimate than that.
3. Take care of your partner when he or she becomes sick.
While no one ever wishes their partner to be ill, there is no preventing whenever our immune systems decide to fail us. Sickness will come and go, but these moments of physical weakness can be seen as opportunities for couples to express their intimacy in a very nurturing and maternal manner.
4. Express your love to each other through writing.
Intimacy doesn’t always has to be physical. Intimacy can also be expressed through words. In the advent of social media, the internet, and communication technologies, we have become a world wherein communication is easier than it has ever been. But somehow, our standards of communication as a species haven’t seem to have evolved.
We still succumb to shallow expressions of gratitude or kindness, and we must do everything in our power to change that. Express your intimacy with your partner by writing each other deep and passionate love letters. You don’t necessarily have to be a modern-day Shakespeare; no one expects that of you. The only requirements you need to fulfill are those of complete honesty and love.
5. Compliment each other on a regular basis.
Tell your boyfriend that his haircut looks good on him. Tell your girlfriend that she looks really pretty even when she’s not wearing makeup. Tell him that his outfit is definitely on point today.
Tell her that her skin is glowing and that you’re falling in love with her even more and more. Intimacy can also be expressed through verbal communication. You can be fully intimate with your partner whenever you compliment each other.
Don’t be afraid to let your partner know what you love about them the most. These are very subtle manifestations of intimacy, but they are greatly appreciated nonetheless.
6. Just be with each other and do nothing.
It really shouldn’t matter so as long as you’re together. Love knows no address, time, nor space. You can be perfectly in love with each other whether you’re lounging around on your sofa or you’re standing underneath the Eiffel tower.
There is lots of intimacy to be shared when you just allow yourselves to enjoy each other’s company. You don’t have to be doing any grand or fancy activities that make your heart race and your blood flow faster. You only need to be with each other, and that should always be enough when it comes to being intimate.
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