Sometimes when we breakup with the once we love, we see it as one big thing that we can’t endure. But that’s not true because before getting into that relationship that just collapsed, we’ve always lived a happy life. There are so many things that could cause a breakup which might likely weigh you down but it doesn’t matter what must have led to the break up.
Some difficult situations in a break up could be the circumstances surrounding the break up. Or are you the one breaking up with the person or verse versa? Have you already broken up, or will you be breaking up in the future? Are you living together? How long has the relationship lasted? No matter what the situation could be, this guideline will help you to get over a breakup.
How to Deal with a Breakup & Become Successful
Avoid contact after the breakup
Avoiding contact should be the first thing you should do but if there is any, make sure it’s cordial. Hopefully you won’t be seeing them around everywhere you go, because that does make things harder to move on, you can be friend with them but that doesn’t mean you take control of their lives. There’s a difference between being friends and being friendly.
If you are the one breaking up with the person, respect their boundaries as they need to move on from you at their own pace. If they’re breaking up with you, do the same as they have ended the relationship and you need to heal. If it’s mutual, both of you should be recognizing that remaining in contact may hinder or regress the process of moving forward personally and for the other party. Even still, it’s important to stay respectful always. At one point you were together, and though you are not anymore, they did matter before and as a person they continue to matter. Just be kind, that’s all.
3 Ways to Overcome a Breakup
Remove them from social media
This is entirely dependent on both the mutuality of the breakup but also personal preference. If you both desire the relationship to end in a romantic capacity, then it may be easier to forego awkward situations and removal, particularly because there won’t be any hostility.
Keep in mind this may be challenging just because if you remain friends, no social media removal involved, and do miss each other then you may be tempted to follow them and prolong pains. If things are not mutual however and the relationship has substantially impacted one party more heavily than the other (whether or not there is hostility) then removal from social media prevents any hurt over seeing the other party move on without you as you have to deal with the personal grief of getting over them.
Avoid places where you could meet
If you work together this may be more difficult, or if you are in the same classes, etc. Just don’t go out of your way to see them, and if you know they’ll be somewhere you’ll be, prepare your mind adequately to deal with the fact that you’ll be around one another.
Avoid treating them differently than you would do anybody else (meaning you should be cordial, because making a scene or putting extra emphasis on your interaction will make things seem out of place and uncomfortable. I know this can be easier said than done but just remind yourself that they’re only a person)
I hope you find this post resourceful?