If you’ve ever cheated on your girlfriend and she broke up with you, getting her back is only half the battle you’ve to face, and the other is getting her to trust you again.
One thing you should keep in mind is that there are no quick ways to fix a relationship which is broken due to cheating. Your approach will be somewhat the same, but there will be a huge difference amounting to patience you’ll need to have. Your ex-girlfriend will need time to get over your infidelity and even more time to forgive you for being unfaithful.
Cheating is a dirty game, and you need to own up to that. You were thinking with the wrong head, and now you need to come back to your real sense.
3 Things to Do to Get Back Your Girlfriend
1. Allowing Her The Right To Be Angry
When your girlfriend must have caught you cheating on her, why would you try to calm her down? Why would you step in and try to hold her, apologize to her, and tell your girlfriend that everything will somehow be alright?
Because as of now, everything is not alright. Your girlfriend just caught you cheating on her, and she’s going to rage against anything and everything you try to do or say. If you want to stop her from being mad at you is totally useless. Not only won’t it work, but she’s going to resent you for it.
2. Apologies to Her
This is the second move you should make after she must have recovered from her grief over you being unfaithful. It’s also the opportunity for you to make one solid, yet very brief, apology.
Don’t try to approach her, put your arm around her, or take her by the hand. You’ll only incite her rage again, and cause her to pull away from you.
Instead, just tell her you’re sorry. Don’t try to explain yourself, don’t try to elaborate, and don’t try to make any excuses for what happened.
Tell her you’re very sorry you cheated on her. Tell her you knew it was wrong, you’re sorry for hurting her, and most of all you’re sorry it destroyed the relationship and also promise her such won’t happen again.
3. Reconnect With Her
When you must have apologized to her, then it’s time you’ll need to step up and reinitiate contact with your her. During this period, you’ll give her one last apology, with an underlying hint of something she doesn’t want to hear from you.
Remember, don’t make any excuses as to why you cheated. Don’t try to downplay it, or tell her it was just once you’ve done it. And whatever you do, don’t pin any of the blame on her shoulders. Some men try to do that, believe it or not.
While you reconnect with her, your apology needs to be sincere and should come from your heart. At this time, let her feel more important, show her love like you never did before by testing and calling her frequently so that she won’t think of leaving you for another man.
When your girlfriend accepts you back, that’s not the end. The memories of you cheating on her will, unfortunately, linger on, long after you’ve gotten back together again.