Winning your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back isn’t really the hard part. The hard part is keeping them. After all, they left you once, what is to stop them from leaving you again? What is the point of getting your ex back if you can’t keep them PERMANENTLY?
My name is David, and I am here to help you through this painful breakup and hopefully get your ex back. I say hopefully because I can’t guarantee you that you will get your ex back. I can, however, guarantee that if you follow this plan, your chances of getting your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back will increase significantly.
1. Second Chance
You thought you were ready to move on and now you’re reconsidering. It may not be too late. Here are nine ways to rebuild your relationship with your ex.
2. Take Things Slow
Don’t rush back into the relationship, especially if the breakup wasn’t pretty. This is not only for your good, but for theirs as well. If you rush back into a relationship, you’ll probably end up right back in the space that broke you two up in the first place. Your ex will be more comfortable knowing that there’s no pressure to rush into anything.
3. Rekindle Friendship
It’s important that you reestablish your friendship with your ex before you jump back into the relationship. Starting with friendship will help bring their walls down and rebuild trust which is crucial in terms of moving forward. Reach out to your ex, letting them know you’d like to start with friendship first. If they’re open to reestablishing the friendship, start there.
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4. Acknowledge Fault
A relationship is a two-way street, so there’s no need to assert where your ex was at fault, especially if you’re trying to work on getting back with your ex. However, it is important for you to take responsibility and acknowledge your own shortcomings. If there were areas where you fell short in the relationship, acknowledge them to your ex and let them know that you have and are willing to work on those areas. Also, let that person know that you’re willing to accept constructive criticism, so if you’re falling short again, they feel comfortable enough to express those concerns to you.
5. Let Go Of The Others
It’s important that your ex knows that you’re committed to being with them and only them, especially if there were issues of cheating in the relationship. If you were talking to other people while you were in a relationship with your ex, this is the time to let them go. If you make this declaration, be sure that you’re willing to follow through. If you don’t really mean this, there may not be a second chance.
6. Remind Them of The Good Times
Don’t be afraid to bring up the light-hearted memories. This isn’t to guilt them into wanting you back, but it kind of does. Reminding your ex of the good times you had together will bring them to a positive space and have them wanting you all over again. Let them know that you want those times back and are willing to do what it takes to get back there with them.
7. Work On Yourself, Re-Build Confidence
Your ex fell in love with you for a reason. It’s time to remind them why they did. Work on yourself. That may mean taking some time to work on your own health. Hit the gym and change up the wardrobe a bit, not for them but for yourself. When you do end up reconnecting, your confidence will be so high, your ex will see it, and it will be hard for them to resist you.
8. Make Sure You’re Available
If you weren’t always available in the past and/or dating other people, your ex may have felt like you didn’t value them enough to make time for them. This go-round, it’s important that they know you want to make time for them, out of desire, not necessity. No need to let go of friends or go overboard here, but let them know they are a top priority.
9. Give Them The Right Amount of Space
If you’ve just broken up with your ex, don’t call and text them 24/7 or beg for their forgiveness. While instinct tells us this is the way to win our ex’s heart again, it actually does the opposite. Not only will this annoy your ex, it’s unattractive and puts you in a place of desperation with little control. Instead of blowing up their phone line or inbox, fall off a bit. Give them enough time and space to not feel pressured, but also enough space to let them know what they’re missing.