Cheating of any description involves lying and dishonesty – the antithesis of love. It involves the letting down of the person you are lying to and cheating on. They’re kept in the dark about what is happening, like a child. You are manipulating them, controlling what they know and do not know. In the meantime you may be using their body (possibly putting their physical health in danger too), benefiting from emotional closeness/support, making a fool of them if the ‘other person’ is a friend, workmate or acquaintance. Not very loving, is it?
It is sometimes claimed that going through a particularly bad phase with a partner, and then maybe cheating on them while drunk, for example, is somehow non-intentional cheating and less serious – that it doesn’t mean they don’t ‘love’ their partners.
However, the very meaning of love is proven by being able to get through these phases without choosing to do something like getting drunk and giving oneself such a lame excuse.
Cheating is rarely a reflection of your love for your partner. It’s a reflection of who you are. People who cheat are usually those dealing with something deeper they aren’t willing to work through, and instead use others as an escape rather than doing the hard work to fix their personal issues.
The true meaning of Love means to uphold your partner’s joy, peace of mind and happiness above your own. This person is supposed to be the most important person in someone’s life. They would do anything to be with them and everything to keep them. If one makes the choice to sleep with another person, tell me how that matches what I just said? How important is the man/woman if their partner betrays them?
Love is not just something you feel for someone, but a something you actively do. If you love someone, your actions demonstrate that love. That means it’s possible to love someone even though you may not, at the moment, feel that love. Cheating is one of the most selfish and destructive things you can do to an individual that has committed to you, opened up to you, trusted you, and become vulnerable with you.