At the start of married life, most couples do not know how to work towards achieving a strong love relationship in marriage. But over time, we discovered that maintaining a strong love relationship in your marriage requires a strong determination.
As christians, a solid sense of commitment is the vital key to building a strong and long lasting marriage. The following steps will help you carry on through the years, growing stronger as a couple and in your walk of faith.
5 STEPS TO BUILDING A STRONG CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE
STEP 1 – PRAY TOGETHER
Set aside time each day to pray with your spouse.
A couple therapist while addressing a troubled couple said, “My husband and I have found that first thing in the morning is the best time for us. We ask God to fill us with His Holy Spirit and give us strength for the day ahead. It brings us closer together as we care for each other every day. We think about what the day ahead holds for our partner. Our loving affection goes beyond the physical realm to the emotional and spiritual realm. This develops true intimacy with each other and with God.”
Perhaps a better time for you as a couple might be just before you go to bed each night. It’s impossible to fall asleep angry when you’ve just held hands together in God’s presence.
STEP 2 – ATTEND CHURCH TOGETHER
Get involved in a church together.
Find a place of worship where you and your spouse will not only attend together, but enjoy areas of mutual interest, such as serving in a ministry and making Christian friends together. The Bible says in Hebrews 10:24-25, that one of the best ways we can stir up love and encourage good deeds is by remaining faithful to the Body of Christ by meeting together regularly as believers.
STEP 3 – MAKE DECISIONS TOGETHER
Commit to making important decision together.
I’m not talking about deciding on what to eat for dinner. Major decisions, like financial ones, are best decided as a couple. One of the greatest areas of strain in a marriage is the sphere of finances. As a couple you should discuss your finances on a regular basis, even if one of you is better at handling the practical aspects, like paying the bills and balancing the check book. Keeping secrets about spending will drive a wedge between a couple faster than anything.
If you agree to come to mutual decisions on how the finances are handled, this will strengthen trust between you and your partner. Also, you won’t be able to keep secrets from each other if you commit to making all important family decisions together. This is one of the best ways to develop trust as a couple.
STEP 4 – READ TOGETHER
Set aside time each day, or at least once a week, to read the Bible together.
This might also be described as a time of devotions. About five years ago my husband and I began setting aside time each weekday morning to read the Bible and pray together—a couple’s devotional time. We read to each other, either from the Bible or from a devotional book, and then we spend a few minutes in prayer together.
STEP 5 – CONTINUE DATING
Set aside special, regular times to continue developing your romance.
Once married, couples often neglect the area of romance, especially after the kids come along. Continuing a dating life may take some strategic planning on your part as a couple, but it is vital to maintaining a secure and intimate marriage.