Be more comfortable with being yourself.
You’ve probably experienced a semblance of adoration in your life by now, right? It doesn’t matter whether you were on the giving or on the receiving end of such adoration; what’s important is that you understand the concept and you know that adoration is directly driven by a person’s attraction to you.
You, yourself, have probably espoused a strong adoration for your parents, siblings, teachers, celebrity idols, and crushes. Have you ever taken the time to examine the qualities of such adoration? What makes these people so adorable to the point where you always find yourself being attracted to them in some shape or form?
Adoration is relative. It really depends on how we are brought up and the things that we are exposed to. That’s part of what makes us human. Our individuality grants us unique personalities that espouse our different world-views and perspectives. What is adorable to some people may not necessarily be adorable to others.
But that doesn’t mean that there aren’t any universal factors of adoration that we can all agree on. There is no single formula in making people attracted to you, but there are some tips that you can follow to boost your chances of being on the receiving end of such adoration.
1. Be more comfortable with being yourself.
No one ever likes a fake. Yes, it’s okay for you to idolize some people. Yes, it’s acceptable if you want to emulate people that you absolutely adore. But always remember that the best possible person you could ever be is yourself. When you try to be something that you’re not, people will see right through you.
You always have to be comfortable with just being yourself and you should never force the issue. Otherwise, you will only end up resenting yourself for trying to become someone who you were never meant to be in the first place.
2. Stay honest and true.
Honesty is the best policy. That maxim has held true over the course of history, and there’s no reason why you shouldn’t believe that. Mark Twain once said that a person who never lies never has to remember anything. He was right. You don’t have to play a character or put up a façade to hide who you really are.
Be honest and true to the person you were meant to be. People will always find honesty attractive; and if they don’t, then they were probably people who weren’t worth keeping in your life. The people you love should always be ready to accept you for who you truly are.
3. Develop a sense of humor.
Everyone loves a person with a good sense of humor. That’s why we really like it when we’re around comedians. Laughter and joy are scarce commodities in a grim world. It would be an absolute delight for people to be around someone who manages to make them laugh; to be around someone who is able to bring joy and happiness into whatever situation. A good sense of humor is also a great way to maintain a positive outlook on life. People with positive demeanors tend to attract more people into their social circles.
4. Be more thoughtful and selfless.
When you’re always looking out for the best interests of other people over your own, then other people will notice that. Everyone is always drawn to a person who manages to practice genuine acts of selflessness on a consistent basis.
People who are more thoughtful are known to be more in touch with humanity and have good social skills. They are also people who are a joy to be around because they are sensitive and careful with their words and actions. Selfless people always carry themselves with a certain level of grace and charm that most people are naturally drawn to.
5. Be more open-minded and receptive of different opinions.
No one likes talking to a close-minded person. An attractive and adorable person is someone who is receptive of disagreeing opinions and dissent. The world is in dire need of people who are more open-minded and willing to listen to different perspectives.
People who are most especially attracted to skilled conversationalists will be smitten by people who are able who are able to open themselves up to new world-views.
6. Always be a Good Samaritan.
Be as helpful as much as you possibly can. Whenever you find someone else in need, and you have the capacity to be of aid, then you should always act on it. People are always attracted to other people who are helpful.
It’s comforting to know that you’re in the presence of someone who is naturally nurturing and caring. It makes people feel at ease whenever a helpful person is around to assist them whenever they’re in need.
7. Practice humility all the time.
Be confident, but not arrogant. There’s a difference. Always practice humility and recognize that you’re only human. You have to understand that you can’t please everybody and that you will have your own shortcomings.
Recognize your imperfections and do your best to improve as a person. Remember that a person who thinks too highly of himself is the one who never moves forward.