Unless you really want a one-night-stand, look out for these signs!
When you are in a relationship with someone, you should best expect an absolute whirlwind of emotions. That is a given circumstance because all relationships are always driven by feelings of attraction and comfort. A lot of times, physical attraction is what will pique the interest of most people.
We tend to go after people because we are attracted to their appearances and how they carry themselves. Therefore it is normal for two consenting human beings who are physically attracted to engage in physical intimacy with one another. However, it must be understood that just because someone is physically attracted to another person doesn’t mean that he/she wants to establish an emotional relationship as well.
There have been numerous cases of men who are only looking for physical intimacy with women; treating them as game and sport. In these instances, they will attempt to deceive a woman to the point where she thinks that he wants to genuinely be in a loving relationship with her, but he is only looking for a fun night in the bedroom with her.
Ladies, you have to be very careful with these types of men. They have no regard for your feelings and they are only looking out for themselves. They will do whatever it takes to satisfy their carnal cravings even if it means deceiving you. Here are a few signs that his love for you is less than genuine, and that he only wants to get intimate with you physically.
1. He rarely makes time for you unless it’s for sex.
He doesn’t make time for you unless you guarantee him a fun night in the bedroom with you. Otherwise, he is just going to act disinterested and unwilling. He doesn’t like to take time out of his schedule for your dates, hangouts, or just random chill sessions. He only wants to be with you when you’re looking to get physically intimate with him.
2. He doesn’t plan meticulous dates with you.
Dates are out of the question. He will only wine and dine you if you make him believe that he has a shot at getting with you at the end of the night. Otherwise, he wouldn’t be willing to spend his time nor money on you at all.
3. He doesn’t integrate you within his social circles.
There’s no point in him wanting you to meet his friends because he’s not looking for a real relationship with you anyway. He couldn’t care less about having his friends liking you because he doesn’t like you that much either. He’s not looking for anything emotional with you. To him, it’s purely physical.
4. He doesn’t make an effort to make you feel safe.
He doesn’t check up on you when you’re not together. He never asks you how you’re feeling. He won’t try to cheer you up when you’re feeling down. He won’t take care of you whenever you’re sick. The point is that he only thinks of himself and his own personal desires.
5. He doesn’t introduce you to his family.
Similar to why he doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends. There’s no point in it. He’s not looking for anything special with you and so introducing you to his family is just plain unnecessary for him. He’s only using you as an object, and he doesn’t see you as a potential emotional partner at all.
6. All your conversations only revolve around sex.
You rarely ever talk but during the rare times where you’re actually conversing with each other, it’s always about sex. He is always telling you about stuff he wants to try in the bedroom, or he’s making plans with you about your next sexual escapade.
7. He does not share intimate details about himself to you.
No emotional attachment whatsoever. He won’t allow himself to get vulnerable with you because he has no interest in opening himself up to you at all. To him, your relationship is built purely on physical attraction, and he doesn’t think it necessary to open up to each other emotionally.
8. He only compliments your physical attributes.
You never hear compliments about how smart you are because he has no interest in your intelligence. You never get comments about your personality because he really couldn’t care less. All he cares about is how you look because to him, you are merely an object of his desires. That’s why he only chooses to compliment you on the only things that interest him.
9. He only takes you out to places that serve drinks.
He knows that whenever substance is involved, you get more vulnerable. When you get more vulnerable, he increases his chances of getting the only thing he wants from you. Be very careful if your guy always asks you to go out drinking all the time and learn to control your intake.
10. He only calls you at night.
The classic booty call. He never calls you within the day to check up on you. He doesn’t give you morning calls to wish you a good day. He only calls you at night to see if you’re looking for some action.
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Ladies, have you been in a similar situation? Let me know in the comments below! Your opinions will really help a sister out.